These jokes kept escalating. Yeah youre not the asshole for that but you are the asshole. Ask your dad how he feels about the respect that you and Tim have lost for him as a human being?? AITA? They maybe expected him to go buy tires and change them by himself instead of getting help or the car taken to a place that fixes these problems? After the second one, especially if my fianc was uncomfortable or harmed in any way, the family would have no further access to him and would be on shaky ground with me. They dont seem to have any!! Or, go rogue - cancel the wedding and elope. In the post titled "AITA for uninviting my cousin, brother, uncle and dad to my wedding over a prank?"?" They are vandalism, destruction of property, and attempted murder. Family should be loving, welcoming, and supportive first, and then if they have concerns about the way they see him treating you they have a talk with you about it. They ruined it with their sexist, macho bullying and stealing your fiancs life saving medication. His lips are turning purple! I am sure they have along with the mother. Stealing his inhaler and dragging him out into the wilderness?? I'm almost done and it's been a lifelong dream of my mother's to have her children graduate from college. Maybe consider a destination wedding? Excuse me? Pretty soon they will be cutting his brake lines to see if he is a real man and can bail out of his car. Send them a video of a grown man having an asthma attack. NTA for calling them out but you are TA for letting it continue this far. They don't know the severity of his condition and could have KILLED HIM. NTA. Hey Timmy Jr! Imagine kids growing in a family where grampa insists on teaching him "hOw tO Be a MaN, beCauSE HiS fatHer iS sOft". What they did could have KILLED your fianc. Being in a good mood I went on a websearch to add some examples of that having happened. Not going to assume too much for OP's case, but in my case, the unwillingness to acknowledge the abuse just caused my siblings to peg me as ungrateful. NTA. These aren't pranks. Honestly, I might have broken up with OP after the tire thing. And if I were you, I'd take a real close look at the abuse they've subjected you to. Slashing tires and hiding necessary medical equipment are not 'pranks'- they are being wilfully malicious to your fiancee and attempting to pass it off as pranking so you don't call them out for their less-than-human behavior. My husband races autocross, our tires are more expensive than I like to think. They think it's ok to abuse and bully others. All these grownass dudes doing this just cannot see they're actually showing everyone how stupid they'd rather be. NTA. I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. I wandered around saying "fucking men!" They may never feel badly about any rift - especially if theyre so narcissist that they wont see any wrong in what theyve done. Some people live paycheck to paycheck and this could break them. Back your fiance and be in his corner. If a person disrespects your partner, then they're disrespecting you too. They're trying to scare him away, not test him. This!!! Were your father and uncle also tested ? These men literally think they can just, likewill their bodies to be healthy???? Ask them who was going to take responsibility if he died. See our ~~*Best Of*~~ "Most Controversial" at /r/AITAFiltered! Only yours should matter. My brother used to prank us by leaving frogs in our bed or tying the sprayer so it stayed spraying and then wiping mud or something on us so we'd have to go wash our arm and get sprayed turning the water on. He sounds pathetic. This is insecure assholes being assholes because they feel intimidated by OP marrying a guy that is likely more successful. My mother had saved child support payments for years so I could go to college. OP has to show Tim that she is on his side no matter what. NTA. Your family sounds toxic as fuck. Basically is he a good person and are you happy in the relationship. A part of me wants you to send that guy flowers with a card that says "Sorry for your loss." What a sissy! Id have slashed every fucking one of their tires. Whats next, cutting his cars breaks? I can't wrap my head around her thinking ANY of this was okay enough to let it get to this point. It absolutely doesn't ruin any joke I've ever come across to use a /s. My in laws are great, but that's not something I'd sign up for unless I felt like my wife really wanted me to go for some reason. I have a sister 18f that got married to her highschool sweetheart. OP, how have you not filed a police report?? Ask them who was going to be the one to explain to his family if he died. "Like real men. That how they drained mine, too, so maybe I got the wrong term there. What an ungrateful bitch. NTA go no contact over those AH. If my husband do this to me one day, aka letting people bully me, he would find himself very lonely because I'll be gone. Seriously. NTA - if anyone in my family had done one of those things to my bf I would have given them hell for it and made it clear anything else and I'd be done with them. OP, it sounds like the men in your family are jerks and hoping your future husband wont disrupt their dysfunction. Just they just seem like big bullies to me. They've shown they aren't capable, loving, supportive people. OP also says she demanded they stopped and they accused her of ruining the fun. Sounds like a bunch of dumb hicks bullying a city boy. Oh then hell no! These aren't "pranks" and what sort of fucking adult even "pranks" people anyway. They are cruel and bordering on criminal behavior. Who cares about their opinions of your husband to be? They're being mean and trying to downplay it. NTA. So according to your family, I (a woman) am a man cause I can fix tires, cause obviously that's a manly man thing and not just a question of interests and acquired skills? My god. I am assuming your fiance has been putting up with this out of respect for you and your family. Calling him the soft college kid makes it seem like its more about their feelings of inferiority instead of making your fianc prove himself. NTA they took his medication! The slashing of the tires would probably be my limit for being around them, but he went on a solo camping trip with them after that (solo as in he didnt have anyone on his side to back him up if they pulled the shit they did)?? You really ought to either go LC or NC altogether. "However, I figured I . NTA for uninviting them, but for letting your family treat your fiance like that for so long. They committed at least one crime. They disrespected the college boy. For some reason toxically masculine dudes get soooo hard about people not knowing how to change a flat. Hiding his inhaler and trying to kill/risk his life. They're just bullying your fiance because they don't like him I assume. OP, you need to absolutely stamp out your family's behaviour or risk losing a great guy who sounds as if he would go to hell and back for you. These men need help. Dont let them go to your wedding. I would not let them come to my wedding, and I would cut those awful people out of my life. Im a woman, but it my now-husbands family had treated me even 10% this badly, literally committed crimes against me they could be charged with criminally, I would not have continued dating him, much less married into his family. NTA. The "men" in your family are just a bunch of bullies. NTA, pranks are all too often used as an excuse to be AH's, let this be a lesson to them that you wont tolerate their BS. You know their bullying will only get worse with you standing up for him. Far from it. OP has been shown who values her and her happiness, and who sees her as worth less than momentary uncomfort. I grew up with a very messed up family. ESH - uninviting them is the right thing to do but overall its just really fucking sad that your asshole family had to get to the point where they were risking Tims life before you decided to grow a spine. i might be the asshole here for overreacting. They know when they have power and they are exploiting it as much as possible to make him miserable. I am angry for the fiance just from reading it. NTA - definitely let this be the thing sl that ruins your relationship with your family, as your mom puts it. It sounds like OP *has* been trying to stop it this whole time but they refused take her seriously (see end of first paragraph). NTA you are prioritising yourself and your mental health and thats the right thing to do. I hope not. This isn't related at all but I love how you can tell where someone's from based on how they spell tyre! This, Im shocked they are engaged, he must really love her. Your male family members sound like toxic sexist AH, who love bullying under the pretense of how manly they are. Wow, what the fuck?? Its about living or dying. Agreed. Press J to jump to the feed. Who wants to be treated like that for the rest of their life? I hope that they see the error of their ways and apologized to Tim but until then, I guess you might have to go no contact. she said im to keep the money if i sell the tickets (both mine and hers). Pranks dont hurt people or destroy things. So, in theory my lung could open up more. You cant be around these people at all, and you sure as hell cant ask Tim to risk his health and safety for the sake of pretending that your family is just a little quirky or whatever. What your sister did was shitty, she let you down and made you waste 90. The men in your family are a bunch of nut jobs. Mom cheated on stepdad a year ago and he left us. The only difference is, I was about 13 when I was forced to realize my father was a terrible, manipulative man. It's a crime. To hell with that nonsense. What they are doing is expensive (slashing his tires?) Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. If you give in, now or ever, you will be the AH and you will get your fianc killed. They also tested his fishing and hunting skills, overwhelmed him with hypothetical scenarios to test his decision making abilities/mental strength. This is what its like to be part of a narcissists world. So I 28f am getting married to the love of my life. These arent pranks. People really act like this? Its unfortunate that they are your family members. NTA. Is he the type of man who is open and honest with you? I call this sort of thing radioactive stupidity. Also tell your mom you didn't ruin the relationship, they did with their attitude and nobody else gets a say, your decision is final and they have to be "man enough" to accept the consequence of their childish actions. Saran wrap on the toilet bowl, bucket of water over a door, recorded fart sounds played in a ghostly manner. Sometimes that is worth the peace of mind, and sometimes it isn't. Recently, I bought a new car which I use everyday and let my mom and stepdad take it whenever they need. Starting a married life together is supposed to be a wonderful thing, it's not worth letting it get soured by people who's opinions don't even matter like yours does. Poor guy. I really hope they paid for the damage when they slashed his tyres. If they even slashed in a way that could be plugged. Imagine if he had - oh, is it funny to face a murder charge for hiding an inhaler? Who wants to be treated like that for the rest of their life? Definitely NTA!! NTA. Tow it to a tire shop. They shouldve had charges pressed on them for slashing his tires. These men are going to end up killing him. I, on the other hand got to live with my stepdad more since I'm the youngest and we established a somewhat stable relationship. The first year i was on the rocks with my mom so i invited my dad and his gf, the next year however i was good with everyone and invited my mom and my dad. Id tolerate an event with lots of people where they were there but I didnt have to speak to them. This comment is a copy of your post so readers can see the original text if your post is edited or removed. They should see how horrifying it is for someone to slowly lose oxygen and suffocate to death, and then ask them if it was funny. They could have killed him. Thats probably why theyre picking on him, because all this time he didnt just tell them to f*ck off. Edit: fixed a typo saying tall instead of talk. in her text, she said we got better seats, so i asked who we is. Its just a joke is just the typical response to make it seem less harmful and make the victim out to be exaggerating. Seriously consider if they're going to do this to your son, and if you want this energy in your life. I'm autistic as well, and I agree that the /s helps a lot because we're at a point where I wouldn't be surprised either way. Cut those degenerates out of your life! Hiding lifesaving medicine? Its fucking property damage! Him not being able to breathe, "Oh look! They literally could have killed him. He's been through enough hazing and taken it in stride for YOUR sake. This account is currently shadowbanned or suspended, suggesting this account is in violation of Reddit terms of service. Literally willing to risk everything to be with you. I cant wait for the AITA because I did not stand up to the bullies in the family and now my husband is divorcing me. This isn't much different from slipping someone a food you KNOW they're allergic to. I do wonder why he said yes to taking a trip with these dangerous people. He fights everything that's put in place to help him and rejects the idea that he's actually making things much worse for himself and for his relationships. Your male relatives are a perfect example of toxic masculinity. That means OP figured it out themselves. Fuck that that's why I have AAA. Why are these guys hanging up to keep OP from a healthy relationship? And their results will be used to judge them for the rest of their lives. AITA for uninviting my stepdad from my wedding so my brothers could come? Those two alone are enough to go low or no contact. My parents pride themselves on being do-it-yourself. Especially with your dad, who will apologize but will lose respect for him. TPing a house is a prank. Got to admit that if I were Tim, Id run. Hiding his inhaler on a days camping trip? #NTA. If you give in, they'll keep thinking that their bullying is acceptable or funny. If someone hid my inhaler, I would consider that attempted murder. Thats not an excuse, honestly. The critical thing here is that OP HAS learned that this behavior isn't ok. Good job, OP, for defending your (edit: future) spouse against the abusive men in your family. If these guys need to grunt and scratch their balls to show that they are real men let them - but these are not jokes. There is no most likely about it. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: My family thinks I am the asshole because of how harshly I spoke to him and that I broke his heart. I would have dumped OP and never gotten involved with this family if she didn't stick up for me. Yep, that guy sure loves OP for putting up with her AH family. Exactly that. In reality, I was suddenly unable to breathe at all. I would presume that they had a similar experience with him. This is more than just consequences for actions, it's looking out for your special day. The way he calls you failure is super not okay You do what is right for you and go ahead and uninivite him. They are just immature jerks. NTA. So if Tim had dropped dead at their feet, would they have congratulated him for passing the test? I thought my family was crazy. My dad is technically my stepdad but he is the only dad I have ever known. Look: I know its hard to discover that the way you grew up isnt actually normal or okay, but the way you grew up is not actually normal or okay. Nothing worse than telling a funny story and everyone goes quiet and looks sad at you. They've shown who they are and they aren't going to change. OP mentioned demanding they stop. It really fucking is. This has got to be in the rural midwestfucking stupid redneck or white trash shit. When I was 14 my parents got divorced. Op is young and grew up with this, I dont fault them for not knowing better but the lesson here is its okay to stop talking to abusive people even if their family. Thats what theyre doing to her fianc. You don't need your family to think your fiance is "man enough", and their definition itself is horrendous. From what you've said I sure don't. NTA by far. Again, keep in mind him and I have never once hung out one on one just strictly in social settings. Tyre! Toxic masculinity ruins the party again. I suffer asthma and it is not something to joke about. It's just a prank after all?! Um you both didnt cut off contact after his tires were slashed? AHs are still AHs. No amount of masculine hobbies excuses that. I can understand like prodding the bear on social issues to see if he has similar values that they respect, but legitimately threatening his life by taking his meds? Who carrys 4 plug kits? NTA. anyway, its my mums birthday next week and i was going to take the family out for dinner at a nice restaurant. She's NTA. An inhaler is used for a life saving breathing issue. NTA, please protect your fiancee from these toxic, manipulative nasty people. Sounds like Tim is the only real man among them. He sabotaged your relationship with your mother and hurt you in the process. NTA and also I think is healthy you take some space away from your familytheir idea of manliness is so backwards. Doesn't make him soft, The men in your family are obviously deeply insecure, if they feel the need to hide someone's medicine so they can get one over on the "college kid". NTA not let this ruin my relationship with my family. He was supposed to be the adult who loved and protected you, instead he manipulated and gaslight you in some of the most pivotal years of your life (so far). Im surprised youre the first person to say all this. They put his life at risk, am I getting this right? Yes but then he wouldn't seem MANLY to them and wouldn't have PROVEN himself if he couldn't go fix ALL 4 tires BY HIMSELF. Tell your mom she's welcome to join them leaving your wedding as well. You dont realize its abuse until it's to late. Does your idiotic family not understand that they could have ended a human life cause of pranks ? Instead he has a lot of grit to put up with these AHs. Did they pay for those tires? Also you are not ruining the relationship with your family. This is curious that your siblings are not on your side . OP's tolerance of her family's antics until the inhaler "challenge" puts her damn near in enabler territory. And if someone almost killed my husband over a ill-planned prank they definitely wouldn't be invited into our lives anymore either. You joke, but men let their toxic/insecure masculinity come between them and lifesaving healthcare. He absolutely should have pressed charges and taken OP's family to small claims court over this stunt. Not the husbands. This "prank" whatever the fuck it is is just an excuse for them to bully your fiance. And your mom isnt any better for enabling them. Cut them all out. Also your mom is an AH as well for enabling her husband and son. Half the stuff they did could land them in jail if he wanted to press charges. Not from you though, so NTA. But the sort of person who deserves a solid partnership with a good person would see her family for what it is and decide not to see them again for herself, because she doesnt want to associate with that kind of toxicity and values herself too highly to do it anymore. AITA for uninviting my dad from my graduation and telling him I never want to see him again? OP needs to uninvite mom for defending the others as well. And if you have kids do you want them to be raised with this toxic environment. Hiding the inhaler was criminal! This is a very real crossroad in your life. why would you even want to remain family with a bunch of hazing, assaulting assholes? Not if OP also makes fake invites to the wrong venue. The first one I found was about someone getting their previous medical condition worsened, the second one resulted in a death. This is NOT pranking its bullying pure and simple. Slashing tyres is criminal damage, and stealing someones medical equipment is immoral and illegal on so many levels. . For real. You need to do more than not invite them from the wedding. I got into the college I wanted to go to, but passed on it to go to community college at home to save money. Of course hes not going to tell you not to see your family anymore; that would be controlling and inappropriate. NTA. Yup, this is essentially hazing someone who doesn't even want to be in their stupid frat. What they did is beyond bullying and shedding a few crocodile tears shouldn't give them a pass. NTA- people can die from an asthma attack. He's college educated. INFO: did any of these prankster men go to college? NTA you protect your husband. Send them all links for information about consequences of their behaviour regarding his inhaler. Nta. I'd be pissed if one of my in-laws slashed them as a "prank". Exactly. Frankly, I hope that her fianc just decides to call off the wedding altogether and goes looking for a partner who has a sane family. Who works with you to resolve problems? Blood relations dont necessarily need to be your family. That kind of behavior is toxic and pervasive. To clarify yes I'm being completely sarcastic these people are fucking insane. I agree that OP never thought it was okay. Honestly we should make a sister sub for AITA. I told him no because I need to go to work. What respect can you have for the family members pushing you to ignore this violent, aggressive and potentially harmful behavior? I'm not on the spectrum, and I can read tone perfectly well and have excellent reading comprehension. Agreed. I feel bad for her but worse for Timmy. I definitely would have pressed charges. People with asthma can die from their condition. AITA for uninviting my stepdad from my wedding so my brothers could come? Just stuck a needle in my back and tapped me like a maple tree. Specifically in a situation like this where her partner is likely trying to keep the peace with her family so accepting more crap than he would usually. Your family is really toxic. By accepting all cookies, you agree to our use of cookies to deliver and maintain our services and site, improve the quality of Reddit, personalize Reddit content and advertising, and measure the effectiveness of advertising. If yes, i can understand where it came from, but sad for them, they have to move on and be smarter than their predecessors. Almost 4 years later and I still wish I didn't. My question would be why the hell op allowed it to go this far without imposing consequences on her family. Asthma can kill and as someone with asthma not knowing where my emergency inhaler is can cause anxiety as I may need it to save my life. I would leave them uninvited and strongly consider NC for the future. I, on the other hand got to live with my stepdad more since I'm the youngest and we established a somewhat stable relationship. Bye . Who shows you affection and makes you happy and feel loved? NTA. The man loves you but hes at risk of death and financial hardship being associated with you as long as your family is involved. Will they get the same abuse? It's not fun. Your username is literally what you should be doing. NTA depending on how severe his asthma is then no inhaler = death. I dont envy her position, but her fianc deserves far better than this. These stopped being pranks before they started. Thats the thing. by AITApod (Am I The A**hole Podcast) AITApod (Am I The A**hole Podcast) By Danny Vega & Sara Levine Danny Vega, TikTok cringelord, and Sara Levine, meme queen master's student, read listener submissions & pilfer from the similarly-named subreddit. Yta for letting them do this to him for so long, but absolutely not NTA for uninviting them. Tell your husband he'll be more stressed if it turns out to be a serious condition. I see this a lot when it comes to autism, so I'm very prone to taking statements like this at face value. How do you fix slashed tires? I am not jealous of any person forced to choose between their brothers and a parent. "Family" doesn't mean anything. Its a very dangerous prank. I said she could come and so could my brothers but I'm standing firm that my stepdad has to stay away. I would have brought the hammer after the first incident. 4 new tires is in the high hundreds too. If youre having children, what will these men do to them, particularly if you have Tims son? Trying to punish them runs the risk of them pretending to go along with it as long as theyre forced to, then taking it out on someone (probably Tim) the second they get the opportunity. By rejecting non-essential cookies, Reddit may still use certain cookies to ensure the proper functionality of our platform. This was them seeing if he would literally die. I wouldnt only ban them from my wedding Id stop talking to them entirely. Like if NTA was like the golden buzzer in Got Talent, OP would still be NTA. In the eyes of the law, if your fianc had died, they could be charged with manslaughter or even murder. NTA for uninviting them to the wedding but you are huge AH for not shutting their antics down sooner and continuing to subject Tim to these bullies. OP should have stopped them long ago. If they can't show respect to you and their fiance, then why should they be allowed to share in your special day? NTA, this is horrible. I would presume that they had a similar experience with him.". Theyve already risked his life once and now their frustration is added for being called out. He was my hero. Why were you even associating with them?! Read this before contacting the mod team. and her Mom Is a no better. What will they do next, cut his brake lines? I was so mad at the timing of that because I couldn't do nearly as much as I wanted to on that trip because of that unexpected expense. They would have just said he had left it at the campsite and tossed it back with his things or just lost it or something. People really underestimate how fatal an asthma attack is. It's easy to spot the black things, harder to see the greys and off whites. Yeah driving 7 hours without an inhaler could have gotten him, someone else, or both killed if he passed out behind the wheel. This wasn't them 'having fun'. Honestly, Tim must really love and value your relationship to put up with all that. And these pranks and challenges are NOT typical men stuff. Timmy also needs to stand up for himself. NTA- my husband has asthma and they could have killed him. OP needs to drop the family or drop the fiancee, because you can't have a healthy loving relationship with someone while being complicit in them being abused. Good lord. I'd have noped out much sooner no matter how much I liked a guy. NTA. I'm on the hope the stepdad pulls his money out of her wedding train too. I would go NC with all of them. Good thing I was completely serious and not sarcastic at all. NTA, Damn, well said! To follow this. Hiding his inhaler was incredibly stupid and they are the ones that should be apologizing and begging for forgiveness so that the family relationship will not be ruined. The men in your family are among the worst types of people and I feel terrible that your fianc had to endure that much before it was finally stopped. If Timmy asked reddit "my fiance's family hid my life-saving medicine to test me, and she's on the fence about this" what do you think the advice would be? Some of this is actually really dangerous. Me and his bio son arent on good terms. I myself have an in law I do not like but noone would ever know it because I respect and love my brother. NTA, You set a healthy boundary with your family (which is difficult to do) and they violated that. Plus wives will send your ass to the doctor. He could have died while they played the prank hiding his inhaler. Just elope, video it for mom and dad. They probably feel less than because he's a college boy (that's the thing they have pointed out) so they are all proving that they are actually real men while he isn't. Elope! The only third option is that you stop this dangerous behavior. Agreed. Click Here For Our Rules and Click Here For Our FAQ. He told me how selfish i am and that he wont be coming if my mom is there and that i only got that scholarship because of him. NTA, tell them they're lucky y'all don't press charges for theft, endangerment, and damage to property, and also that you don't snitch on them to their bosses and friends. And if I were Tim, I would be reconsidering marrying into your family. He wants YOU to drive a wedge between you two and your family but he's too much of an actual "real man" to ask you to make that kind of decision. Youre right - they were hazing him. Hell, you might be the asshole if you don't press charges. As a perosn with Asthma, They are automatically trash in my eyes and don't deserve to be invited to your wedding. I'd press charges in the same situation honestly. NTA like at all. How is that funny? NTA - They tried to kill your fiance. That wasnt a prank. What they have done to him is downright CRIMINAL. 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