I find it very perverse. hello I am reading your article now in 2017. I TOO WAS NOT FEELING THAT AT ALL BUT UPON FARTHER STUDING AND PRACTICING AL- ISLAM FOLLOWING THE QURAN WE HAVE TO ACCEPT THIS PONIT BLANK, excellent article for the wives of all married men, and true, This is a good advise for sisters in Islam and also teaches brothers little on how to treat their wife in a right way, Assalaam all I have to stay with my parents. I hardly ever hear any good. Having dinner & lunch with your wife together makes her feel more special too. You mean rapeee!??? Mashaa Allaah,this was a pleasant article to read. Just like if a woman wants a man to love her, she needs to figure out how to show respect even when she doesnt respect him, and figure out how to be with him at night even when shes not feeling attracted to him, just like this, if a man wants his woman to respect him, then he needs to figure out how to talk to her and show his emotions instead of hiding behind the all-too-easy Argh, Im a man, talking is too hard for me screen. My husband converted to Islam 7 years and I converted 4 years ago. You can imagine how frustrating it would be for a man, who tries his best to care for his family, to be married to a woman who doesnt respect him. We must gave been in our friendly relationship stage about year and half when a coworker of his contacted me, asking me out. Although I did very much appreciate zuhrAs story. I agree with sara that certain parts of the article are rubbish. Salaam to all Muslim brothers and sisters who are reading this article and its forum. May Allah grant you ease in your affairs ameen, Salam . To put him back on track, just reduce your level of love to the minimum level which is your duty, and he will do everything to get you and that extra love and care back I dont mean sex only, by Love. I cannot imagine that all married men think about taking another woman. Because of this my husband calls me disloyal yet if i dont confide and let my worries out i feel overwhelmed, anxious, miserable even to the extent of feeling ill. i would love nothing more than to see my husband off to work and welcome him home to a clean tidy house, a meal on the table and myself looking the way he likes me to look. I agree with you ,u shoot my many problem.only one word I want to say thanks. Praise be to Allah. Youre better off coming to terms with this and accepting it than having false, purile notions about men.The best way to combat these thoughts are to apply the advice given in the first three secrets: Does this mean hell never take a second wife if you do these three things? I am a white English revert sister, who was raised Catholic my whole life before coming to Islam, so I know I am fighting my ingrained culture when I feel instinctively against it. anger and controlling one's tongue is part of controlling one's anger Yes I used to have fights with my husband on pity things because he was not giving me the love I wanted I wanted his care I wanted him to see I stay home all alone I go frustrated n crazy. Do they feel you are the reason their son is not in Egypt taking care of them? 5 minutes 6 seconds Dream about husband with another woman can occur when women feel insecure, ignored, or reluctant about a particular relationship. refrained from establishing a haraam relationship even though there is a The words reverberated through my brain. And as for he thinks of other women when you treat us like this, it is then we wish we had another husband who is a gorgeous hero.. I dont know. this is just one example and nothing more than it and there are many so .. always remember anything Approved / Allowed in Islam is for the benefits of both Men & Women and we Muslims may ask for more details untill we have good understanding of the subject but are not allowed to refuse / deny those allowances. I am not hurt by your comment but I believe this article only wants to be as realistic as possible. And to end it with go make me a sandwich? So, now YOU move away from in front of the TV and make ME a sandwich. dont make up hadiths urself. So figure it out It is not just about you. As described in one of the verses of the Quran below. She took my hand and with tears in her eyes said: This is very hard for me, but I hope that we can be sisters her words broke my heart. theres a thing called devil n he took the better of my husband n he repeated himself in his act of betreyal.god damn it it hurts.n its all this male mustangs fault.respect,huh!!! You have both accepted something haraam and you have not Or is wrong, Sister, can you please rephrase your question so we can give you the correct answer? hey sista. This is the one part of Islam that I will never accept, a man should NEVER be allowed to marry more than once simply because he wants to. This answers the question directed to the authoR. Infront of all insulting me. Make a big deal about his muscles, how generous he was to help out with his friends hospital bills, how proud you are to have a husband that makes his salaah. since its Allahs will and polygamy is halal. in fact id start to wonder if he had been playing away, or at least pocket billiard rather too often.. if he ALWAYS seems to be content when you say you are just so considerate.. i) If he feels that his sexual desires may lead him to sins(sex out of marriage and all the things that come with it). This will add to your familial kinship relationship. Both of you need to brush up on Islamic knowledge and discussions pertaining to polygamy. That is, after such a divorce, the husband will separate the relationship with the wife. With regard to your request for a duaa, I ask Allaah, the Most High, the Almighty, by His grace and favour, to make goodness easy for you and to ward off all evil from you, and to continue to bless you and your family with stability and love, and to keep you and your husband and children safe, and to ward off from you the whispers of the shaytaan and his making falsehood attractive. So its incumbent on the husband to be kind to his wife, discuss the matter with her in a gentle and pleasant manner, and this should be coupled with spending whatever money may be necessary in order to gain her acceptance of the situation. The only thing more difficult than translating thoughts to words is translating feelings to words. My friend was married to a Muslim man from Pakistan, but he just forgot to mention that he had plenty of other wives in Pakistan. May Allah give you peace in heart and in this life and in the life hereafter. not want to and he still goes ahead with it? Suppose my sister happens to be one of the unmarried women living in USA, or suppose your sister happens to be one of the unmarried women in USA. He lies, so I dont really know what is going on. And seek only to please Allah subhana watala. Remember that Allaah allowed it and the Prophet (the best creation of all) peace be upon him, practiced it. Reality, not being idealistic. First bring your husband to defend himself. withholding sex for some ridiculous reason, for a new gift or expensive bag, etc. But there is Quranic verse. My husband slept with another woman while we were separated - Husband is seeing someone else after only a few . 6 mos later he asked me to marry him. I am a muslim man. This Turning on can be on different levels but its always there, whereas, this kind of attraction in women is nothing as compared to men, so she should be creative in keeping him attracted to herself, and always welcoming to the sexual needs of her husband! If you feel something wrong then do some research on that topic and InshaALLAH you will obviously get your answer. and today am happily living with my husband and a bouncing baby boy , with all this help rendered to me through this DR ABULU OF (abuluspiritualtemple@yahoo.com )i will always thank him forever and testify his goodness in my life for other,s to hear an see , once again thank you DR for bringing back my family . May Allah forgive you, Salam, I cant love him and give him what he wants. Second, it may indicate that you are committed to the feelings your sister-in-law has for you. will help him to attain that which is good if it is good, or divert it from May be it is not looking good for you but it would be good for the society as a whole. Q. Part of the problem is also that sometimes it is hard to actually formulate our thoughts into the right words. Dn I am pregnant after my second daughter he kept her in rented house dt women already married n she have 5 year boy baby with first husband she kept relationship with my hubby n after along 5 years she get divorced with 1st husband now she staying with my hubby n she got 1 baby by my hubby. All of these are virtues and standards of character in Islam. (ITS LIKE HIS SAYING ITS OKAY TO BE A LAZY MUSLIM-WHEN ITS NOT)Brothers should do the utmost best to emulate the life of the prophet and their should be no excuses brothers are too busy lecturing sisters on how to be a good wife when their forgetting about their own individual selves. I am being patient for 10 years but it is hard believe me.It takes its toll, when he gets nicely dressed and goes out without saying he is going out that night, or just even saying where he is going,when he is comingnone of itjust gets up,gets dressed and gives salaamHow can I be loving, caring and make myself beautiful for someone like that?May Allah guide me and everyone in hardship inshaAllah. It is never written anywhere where a woman commands her husband. Why do you think men are willing to leave their jobs and risk starting a business? I will never accept a second wife! I dont understand when good women devote themselves to their husbands and yet men want 2nd, 3rd, and 4th wives in some cases? Just so you know amongst those good humans are the good MUSLIMS. But there are no ex children. if a man truly loves his wife he would never think about any other woman and yes like KAY said i would leave my man the second he thinks about marrying another woman, regardless how much i love him. Just be sincere and the next time you think about one of the great things he does that makes you love him . Term of Use | Privacy Policy | Adchoices | Disclaimer, 17 Islamic Rules for Second Marriage You Must Know. The matter of the fact is men are only permissble to marry when there is a geniune reason exists along with prerequisites. If You Nudge Him, He Can Be A Better Muslim Sometimes, dream about husband getting married to another woman indicates domesticity. A female child can fight the germs and diseases better than the male child. 2) It clearly says if the man sleeps angry, then she will be cursed. the author needs to reevaluate his Islamic morals! , Just wanted to add, dont be afraid to compliment him. family, and praying istikhaarah about hurting her children, and praying 3) If she loves U she will have eyes for NO ONE ELSE. A woman who loves her husband and fears losing him. I know, this one may be kinda hard to swallow. Views : Yea, and youd think thered be a bit more discussion in that direction around here! My above statement was based on what I have understood from the article. Even if we do not want to do it. It says in the Reliance of the Traveller, "The husband of a woman who bears a child (0: no matter whether his marriage to her is valid or invalid) is considered to be the child's father whenever it is (N: legally) possible that the child could be his, meaning that: (a) the woman gave birth to the child six months plus a moment after the . 4.What guarantee do you have that astaghfirullah at number 4!!!! Life was very difficult for me and my children and I wasnt young anymore. I wanna be there for her in every way she would want and need. It is illegal for any non-Muslim in India to have more than one wife. Allah knows best , there is a reason for this , you just need trust Allah . Your jealousy is understandable and allowed in Islaam (even Aisha was jealous of the Prophets other wives, and even tried to stop one of his marriages from happening) but that never drove her to say she was disgusted or disagreed with Allaahs ruling. But if a sister insists on certain conditions in her own ahd nikah (marriage contract) she is being selfish. It is far easier for man to get back in mood for sex than a women. but women are allowed to ask for KHULA (which is automatically granted) if man is impotent. this young man and has made him attractive to you so that he may achieve We can hold up our own end and run the household just as equally like men. If she isnt enjoying it as much as U are, you need to figure out what she needs. ALLAH says us many things to do and each an everything for our betterment. The context of this phrase is the following verse from Surah Nisa of the Glorious Quran: Marry woman of your choice in twos threes or fours but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly, (with them), then only one [Al-Quran 4:3], Before the Quran was revealed, there was no upper limit for polygyny and many men had scores of wives, some even hundreds. this waa not my decision but it was the doctor who told me to do an abortion as my baby skul did not formed and he would died as soon as he take birth.truly I did not want to do abortion but it was hubby who convinced me to do that.after abortion I had to do curettage.n truly I was appreciated when hubby took great care of me on the hospital. I have to say shukran and Allah barek feek, you have saved my marriage. You have a nerve to say all men want another woman at some time. men are said to lower the gaze in Quran Sharif. These women truly are the best among us, because it is such a hard and difficult thing to do. 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